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melissa's avatar

I’m late to the party (lost my permission slip?) but I definitely needed to read this so thank you. 😊

I gave myself permission to say no at work today. I agonized over it for nearly three weeks. I finally wrote the message sharing my decision today. The response I received showed me it was a way bigger deal for me than it was for them. I’m glad I chose what I actually wanted versus what was expected.

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Nadine Araksi (she/her)'s avatar

Welcome! We don’t do “late” here. You’re exactly on time. Glad you found us! 💖

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Lindsey Jacobs's avatar

Love this for you (us!). xx

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Nadine Araksi (she/her)'s avatar

Me too. 🥰 Not all messes are problems. Just ask Jackson Pollack 🤣

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Melonie de Guzman's avatar

Holy crap did I ever need to read this. Thank you Nadine.

What do I need permission for? Something I'll be thinking about...

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Nadine Araksi (she/her)'s avatar

I owe you some notes and a plan! Haven’t forgotten ❤️ Trusting that the Universe has a solid plan! And it’s emerging 😘

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Amanda Lee's avatar

Love this, Nadine!

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Nadine Araksi (she/her)'s avatar

Thanks, friend! ❤️

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Julie M Green's avatar

Well put and congrats on the novel writing... I'm always here for Days of our Lives references even though I was a Y&R girl 😝

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Nadine Araksi (she/her)'s avatar

Hahah. No summer camp or after school programs here so I watched them ALL. With throw in a little Nicki/Victor for you soon!

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Asmik Arutyunyan's avatar

As always an excellent piece, Nadine! There's so much that resonated here! I wish this was written last year, when I gave myself permission to take a pause and focus on myself more. This decision also shed a light on many of my relationships, some of which no longer felt right. I also realized how much time and energy I used to dedicate to trying to be liked by difficult people. Making space now for a different story.

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Nadine Araksi (she/her)'s avatar

I feel like it’s so important to the justice work that you do. And in a world where billionaires who have succeeded in the systems are unhappy with how things are going (LOL), it’s so important to pause and define success and “enough” for ourselves. ❤️

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